THE ENCOUNTER. 13 points you should keep in mind before starting communication.

It always amazes me the important role of communication in our lives, as the maintool to interpellate the reality around us, because it is a medium that we can manage our own will and It is one of the best tool that you can use to analyze yourself and answer your last question: Who am I ?. quien soy However, samples of communication today, indicate that the facts are more indicative of truthfulness than words. And the hackneyed phrase words are gone with the wind, gaining strength to meet the incongruity of the issuer, justified or not, and, ultimately, to recognize the action, as the secondary stealing the spotlight the leading lady. According to a study by Dr. Luan Brizendine, published in his book “The FemaleBrain”, it is estimated that a woman can transmit about 20,000 words per day,and a man, about 7000 words. That is, we pass a vast content at the end of day, in other words, we interact withthe world around us, through verbal communication. At this point, we can consider communication as vital to our development as individuals and as being relating instrument. So what is happening to us ?. We made use of technology to develop innovative media, we have developedmany theories and applications to be more effective in the management of this instrument, education sets its foundation on the basis of communication, the media is more than ever present in each minute of our lives, and however, if we did an exercise in self-reflection, we would end up not being satisfied, how we manage the dialogue in our different systems of relationship. When I reflect on this, I come, in the foreground, the text “Creative Intelligencephilosopher Alfonso López Quintás. In this book, López Quintás, explains that “finding implies entreverar own sphereof life to another reality actively react to my presence. Meet is to be present, in thesense of exchanging creative possibilities of an order or another. It also introduces how we should prepare for the meeting, which is none otherthan effort. we must strive to prepare for the meeting. Immediately appeared the following questions: how we prepare ?, what do we need to stake ?. We can consider the following requirements that enhance the meeting:
1. Attitude of generosity.
generosidad This is starting the encounter, dialogue, unpretentious domain or possess. Unlikegiven the possibilities of enrichment reporting, we must be generous to build a new creative space.
2. Stand at the right distance. Sometimes we are too close to each other or to a far distance, we can not consider the totality of reality presented to us either in the form of a painting, a photograph, or a person. What we do is that “distanciajustaout of focus”. For the meeting, we forget that the person you are going to establish communication, a dialogue, etc consists of a dimension or biographical, family, educational, workplace, etc. and possibly it help us connect better and above all, to respect. On the other hand, no position on the proper distance, it can lead to melting,leading to lose that perspective and not get neither the presence nor the meeting.And also, it can lead to estrangement.
3. Avoid reductionism. Involves allowing let the other be what it is. Do not reduce it to our convenience or interests, not stereotype the person. We fully in the field of criticism, the label trial.We see and reduce or magnify the other, depending on the lens that we apply.
4. Tolerating the risk involved delivery.
Difficult dilemma: Do we cover with the armor, or remove us ?. arriesgarHow you present mask dance of the meeting ?. To practice fair play, must surrender to the meeting, being yourself. Quitting the fears, barriers, beliefs aside, because the result is worth it.
5. Be available for playmate. The desire to get into communication, carrying the suitcase the above requirements, makes us available to the other. It is out of the comfort zone and be willing to be in dialogue.estardisponible It is important to mention the well-known saboteurs as distraction, not present, or the most serious of all, do not interact and opt for silence (it is preferable to communicate our unwillingness to dialogue and give it a reason).
6. Accuracy and confidence. Openness and transparency both in our words, and what motivates us to say them.  Alignment between what I think and what I say. In many areas it is difficult to apply this requirement, but we must make an effort again, and opt for a constructive, positive, assertive dialogue, and, of course, respect. veracidad Confidence in the transmitter and receiver. Go to your meeting with the trust placed in me: In my courage, my courage to leave the comfort zone, to show that I am, to be frank, ultimately, confidence in my authenticity. And trust in thee, to know that you are willing to encounter, suggests that,recognize my predisposition and the requirements that I put into practice.
7. The gratitude and patience. This is welcome and thank all that enriches us, and what better area than theevent. paciencia On the other hand, we talk about patience, and ability to adapt to the pace and composition of the other (their times, their silence, their form of expression,nonverbal language, their accents, their sense of humor, etc). Patience to recognize the other, to accept it, to listen, to communicate.
8. Ability of wonder and awe. It is one of the most beautiful and enriching encounter concepts.
asombro The amazement. Empty ourselves of what we expect, lower body, eyes squinting child, be present to impress by the wonder of what surrounds us. It is increasingly difficult to rave about, take everything for granted, we expect “the most difficult yet,” novelty. And yet, is not it amazing what happens around you ?: From sunrises (how is itpossible that is such a perfect night and day cycle?) Through the TV  (an invention where images are , which are sent through a wave?) to the same fact of life.
9. The understanding and sympathy. To understand is to accept that the other can be different, take the dialogic look, a holistic understanding of the person. Means accepting that are unique beings, but different.comprension Sympathy, understood as “easy to tune with others, engage their tastes and way of being, coupling step with yours, vibrate with their fortunes and misfortunes.”
10. The tenderness, kindness, friendliness. It is important to reflect itself adopted this approach in our communications. It would be valuable to reflect on integrating these components in our dialogues. Stop screaming, verbal violence, abuse of speech. ternura Even with those we love, comes these harmful attitudes. For what ?. The result,although we think that we will win the war of words, not worth, not make us better,not allow yourself to be the other. Only wins the ego. Lost ground. Be detached. Incorporate these ingredients to your life purpose. Enrich it. Allows accompany you on the way to meet. Needless to say, the effect it has on education, organization of enterprises, inrelationships. Just choose how you want to present to meet: With a hammer, or a hug ?.
11. The flexibility. If I am inflexible, I is difficult to connect with others. I find it difficult to understand,recognize, value, and above all, amazed. flexibilidad The inflexible man admits more perspective than his. No acknowledges that other light sources may be able to surprise you with ideas and fruitful projects. It is, therefore, unilateral and impoverishes his life to end, as close to the inexhaustible source of wealth that is the game of encounter. I would go a little further. I’d ask you replanteases your theories, your beliefs, your habits, your hobbies, your phobias, your tics, and explores the following questions: What am I missing acting this way ?, how my life would be without this behavior?What would get? What else would get ?.
12. Fidelity. It is the spiritual capacity to fulfill the promises. He who is faithful fulfills the promise despite causing changes over time in the ideas, beliefs and feelings.” Applied to the meeting, fidelity is postulated as the finale of the dialogue. It is the natural extension of candor and veracity. Is to prevent words are blown away. Is to take action, the content of the communication, because we are, among other things, what we say and what we do. This fidelity, also has a smell of values and life purpose.
13. Sharing values and, above all, the great ideal of life. Bring to find the values. Make them present. In coaching, we call life purpose, others call life project, your ultimate goal, etc, it is to capture, recognize and know the different ingredients that you want toaccompany you on the road (values, gifts, talents, passions, etc.) and above all, to follow the direction that gives meaning to your life: What gives meaning to your life? .¿Where to direct your life? Whichinspires you to do what you do ?. Without what you could not live? .What Is your deepest desire ?. Sit in a quiet place. Take a few deep inhalations and exhalations. Go back to that place that gives you energy and peace. Visualize it .Soak of all energy andexplore it for all your senses. Recover your dreams, your visions. Dust off the illusion. Check or build your purpose. Include your values . Identify your talents, your gifts and incorporate. Put aside your beliefs, barriers and fears. Make a plan of action. Divide it into achievable goals and give yourfirst step. Sorry I exceeded. From my perspective, I think it worthwhile to reflect and if we so choose, we incorporate those elements that are not present in our communication, and thatwe are aware of the gift, the essence, the opportunity and the importance involves the encounter with the other.

The Wolf of Wall Street (The LEADER).

With this twist , Martin Scorsese, again gets to show his world of sex, drugs and debauchery , but this time without murder or crime families . This tape riddled with sarcasm and criticism of the financial world , brings out the figure of LEADER .

This is my point of reference for this article.

Di Caprio Leornardo enshrined , from my point of view , as the most versatile actor who lights up the screen in recent years , playing the role of Jordan Belfort, a new graduate in biology , in the last years of the 80s , decides to become a stockbroker in order to achieve your goal : Make fortune.

From this premise , our hero , once he gets his license broker, sees his path is interrupted by the greatest disaster in the stock market after the crash of 29 , known as ” black Monday ” .

At this stage , our young stockbroker , still do not know what wood it is made.Although possibly his instinct and destiny with him not to let his dream aside. After reading his wife in a classified newspaper, ads asking where stockbrokers, decides to appear in the company and create your project.

In this film we find some characteristics that a leader should be properly managed. Let’s review some of these key concepts:

1 – . Knowledge.


One of the requirements to be a good leader , is knowledge. It may not be an expert , but you should know what they want to lead. That knowledge of the environment , where your project is developed will give the data necessary to build your roadmap .

And when I speak of knowledge I do not mean to swell titles in the curriculu


m , but the leader also has the ability to know what training or knowledge needs to learn or develop .

2 – . Constantly reinforces the message group.

Impressive to see the scene where Di Caprio , harangue their employees to the path of victory, towards meeting the objectives of the organization.

valoresI do not intend to enter the ethical issue of the company, and more specifically , of Stratton Oakmont (founded and chaired by Belfort .) Is not on this occasion this.

Belfort , get your employees are motivated , because they also receive compensation for their work and for those who work there, want to be in that company and not another . They want to be part of that team.

Do not just sell your project to the external customer , internal customer here is the first thing to ” buy ” what you sell .

3 – . Communication .

Is not only important what you say? , But how you say it ? .

comunicacionIn other words , speak the same language as your audience. Or better yet , let your audience understand your language .

Polish your way to communicate, one with which you identify yourself , that makes you real , that which is your personal brand. While not fall into the manipulation simply be alert about what works and what not.

Make your meetings or your exposures are enjoyable , despite the issue you’re dealing with. Or at least , it creativeYou ‘ll also enjoy more and more of what you once seemed neutral or boring.

4 – . Take risks .
Leave each day a little more of your comfort zone . Do not install on the throne. You can not be the oracle . Give yourself something to those around you . Share something. Lower the mud. And yes you feel vulnerable, much better. Soon you will find out more about you , to walk this path .

5 – . Resistance.

In this section , I share how Belfort addresses this issue. Drugs were used in past decades to such resistance , the pace of work , to be always at the forefront.
This is already part of the script of certain films . Although you do need care .Being physically fit . Caring for food . The hours of sleep. Try meditation, yoga. It’s about caring and cleanse the body and mind.

Keep your balance , ultimately .

6. Celebration and sense of humor.

celebracionFind something to celebrate and do it honestly and naturally. Celebrate the successes of the company, compliance of those goals have been achieved . This is not the extravagant parties that appear on the tape. But do it . You can also use creativity.

7. Teamwork values ​​.

Minimizes differences in equipment . Try to iron out these differences in status and worry about it. The authority can be maintained by other means. Try to identify common values ​​and maximize them. A team coach can be very helpful in this whole journeyPlease review the mission and includes your team main way yeah you have not already done so.
Insists courtesy, and eradicates and other disrespectful behavior.

8. Symbolism and personal example.

Uses symbolism to give more strength to your message or your action. Yes you indicate your company must reduce costs, give you example . I’m sure you’ll find this balance and that message that your team can capture . In this sense , it’s downright fun to watch pseudo tribal dance with small bumps on his chest that each of the employees of the firm , run and share . Create .

9. Conflict .

Self-managed conflictBeat the anger in small doses. Lima differences , find points intersección.las personal differences should not succeed. Afánete to resolve with humility, and naturalness. It is a sign of weakness, but to fight to bring forward a draft and that the team must remain united .

10 – . Surround yourself with a good team.

Make your team the best. I train him . Endow it the tools and knowledge they need .Recognizes talent , maximize and admit it . We all have a talent inside. No need to be the most expensive and experienced . You can do that are overcome and make the best of them . That’s it .

In the film we see how vendors makes Belfort ” rake ” genuine brokers who have an outstanding performance on the job , through training, motivation, confidence , recognition and of course, compensation .

Is your team and you have to go out and play with him.

A hug