DALLAS BUYERS CLUB (The Survivor). (The Heroe II).

Directed in 2013 by Jean- Marc Vallée and shot in just 25 days on a shoestring budget, is a biopic based on the life of Ron Woodroof ( old glory of rodeos and a special fondness for drugs and bourbon ) , and starring Matthew McConaughey, Jared Leto, Jennifer Garner and Steve Zahn .

What is it that makes us get out of bed every day, but the worst conditions?

What power moves those trying to find new ways to solve their problems or achieve their goals , though , and again become closer to the point of leaving in an apparent impasse? .

We’re talking about survival. Survival , need not be reflected only in the fact of wanting to live or want to continue existence. Which obviously is our deepest instincts.

It is also to provide a meaning to your existence. The state of happiness , is not achieved only having basic needs met . This is when your values, beliefs and rights are being violated , weakness and strength serves fight it with all your might against what is being taken from you . This is not to betray what you have decided to accompany you on your way. This is the true path of the hero. Actually, it is building a healthy self-esteem and respect for yourself.

And it happens often . In day to day. Not have to be confined in a concentration camp riddled with swastikas . O within the group of buyers who make our protagonist. Since the context here directs us to a struggle between the interests of management ( influences, economic agreements , etc. ) and a handful of human beings affected by HIV virus , who receive a treatment that is proven , which is beneficial , arguing that these drugs are not approved by regulatory agencies. And what is the real underlying reason that there is a drug that has been researched and manufactured by a pharmaceutical company , and the need to promote.

Stunning struggle, holding our protagonist.

And what do we do when we are in a situation that is being violated what they believe , part of our essence ? .

Some take the passive way. To maintain the status quo. To let the storm pass .You make it as if nothing had happened . Putting on a blindfold . Do you resonate ? .

Others opt for an active way. To defend what is important and essential in their lives. Can we speak of ” not themselves be failed .” To be faithful to what you decide is important.

Interesting point .

What it takes to not be failed yourself ?

First, we could talk about SELFDISCOVERYDo we really know ? . Do we know what our strengths and weaknesses, what our values ​​are , and what we give meaning and priority in our lives? , Are they present in day to day? What activities and behaviors in our daily life, honor and dishonor what ? .autocomocimiento
Proposal : Go to a quiet place . Curl up and make a simple list of daily activities.Reflect and write down what values ​​and counter values ​​are present. For example, if you respect for a value, and are not applied in an activity, the equivalent might be present , it would disrespect ( can occur in any of your environments : family , family , work, friendship )

Become aware of it. Now you’d find in a conflict of values. And hence derives a growing unease that sometimes will not be able to discern from where. In other words. You ‘re dealing with an inner struggle with yourself. Where the incongruity between what you think , what you say , and what you do not in the same point.They have decided to part ways . And from there , it looks like things are not going well . Problems arise.

Please review this list and realize themselves are present , if they are not, or if you would like that were more present in your daily life . Then design a plan to incorporate and revise periodically. I’m sure that the quality of your experiences you live improved, and the response of your environment will not be made to wait.

Once you find yourself completed the previous phase, decide what your limits are.How far do you let your environment exceeds these limits , and in conflict with what is important to you? .

Our protagonist decides that his environment is toxic to achieve their goals , or simply to survive. And put aside .

You decide . How are these limits : flexible impassable , solid , fragile …

We’re not talking about you becoming a Sioux Indian who gets up in arms as someone desecrates their territory. While yes, you are aware of what they are for those limits that mark you ‘ve decided what is the ultimate goal of these limits , and yes you are being helpful or not. Once you begin to incorporate them into your life , you can work with them and transform them or secure them .

Proposal : Draw a circle from the center and trace several straight lines , for the spokes of a bicycle wheel. Name each portion, which will be the major relationships in your life : work, family , family, etc. .

Indicates values ​​that you would like to be present in each area and become aware of what they are not . With this you can have a better understanding of what kind of relationships you keep and how to build you really want to enjoy.

We are already at the stage of the way. Day to day. How I can implement this in my daily life? . Being assertive.

Assertiveness is often defined as a communicational behavior in which the person does not harm or submits to the will of others, but expresses his convictions and defend their rights. It is worth mentioning that assertiveness is a behavior of people , behavior . It is also a form of conscious , consistent , clear, direct , balanced expression , whose purpose is to communicate our ideas and feelings or defend our legitimate rights without the intent to injure or harm , acting from an inner state of confidence , instead of emotionality typical limiting anxiety, guilt or anger .

Here are some of the main characteristics of assertive person :


  • Go and accept reality
  • Act and speak based on facts and objectives
  • Makes decisions by choice
  • Accept your mistakes and successes
  • It is assertive , while being gentle and considerate
  • It is not aggressive ; is willing to lead , and to let others direct it
  • You can grow , develop and succeed without resentment
  • Allow others to mature , develop and succeed
  • Ask for what you need, says what he thinks and expresses his feelings with respect.

What do you think ? Sounds good , right? . Although it is not an easy task . It’s something we have to train ourselves . Step. But I set it as a key objective, I is that we are still not assertive, or want to be.

This is the ” core” of any changes we want to make in our lives . Okay for all . The ultimate goal translates into habits. By nature , it is easier to adopt habits that are closer to pleasure, that those who are positioned around the slaughter and / or discomfort.
Take the example of Woodroof . Once you decide your goals of living beyond 30 days in which it was predicted an end to journey becomes a true expert in nutrition, which decides only draw on what is right for your body.

New research from the University College London recruited 96 people who were interested in very simple form new habits such as eating fruits at meals or running 15 minutes a day .

It took an average of 66 days to achieve consolidate the habit. The practice undoubtedly provides some automation but these gains could be lost if the person leaves the project before 60 days , where the habit finally consolidated.However, not everyone needed 66 days ; a few privileged enough to them 18 days while others it needed up to 254 days, almost nine months to achieve consolidate the habit.

– Researchers also make us notice some details that could be useful to us in our daily lives :


  • Skip a day at the training does not reduce our chances of forming the habit.
  • Just need more days to form a habit does not indicate that it will not be consolidated but are more resistant to routine people.
  • To form a habit in the early days is essential strong intrinsic motivation and a high degree of persistence .

Acknowledge your efforts and reward it . This will improve your relationship with yourself . It will build a healthier self-esteem. Admire  and express it yourself .Remember . From the inside to out. if  you do not recognize your effort, your talent, even your weaknesses , your environment can do it for you, but it will not be every day of your life to remind you, and will not achieve integrate .

Also recognizes your surroundings . All that has offered you , gives you and show you . Raved and express it. Moreover, in situations where you feel vulnerable.
Our protagonist , happens to be a die homophobic Texan cowboy , to have as a traveling companion in his last years , a transsexual . And finally manages to recognize you as a person who suffers as he does, and just like you do. That is, someone who feels their fears , hopes , goals, breastplates , weaknesses, just like you . That is the lesson of Woodroof . Obtained when the frame of reference changes. Curious and parallel McConaughey, also undergoes a radical change in their profession, to change their frame of reference , as wheel as it is not used to doing : Shots up to 15 minutes , one camera and a shoestring budget . And, recently , has been rewarded for his professional environment , with the highest distinction.

Proposal: Sit quietly and do a review of your milestones and achievements . You can draw a line , scoring in the top of the year in which it occurred. Become aware of those moments and analyze them . Shells that skills , knowledge, values ​​, put into practice. Acknowledge them and value them . Also check out your mistakes or weaknesses , and learn from them . If you are going through a bad time , they can serve to help you reconnect with your true self, and not confuse external circumstances , with your true essence . Undoubtedly , you will achieve ponderarte .

Smile ,and give you a tribute yourself . Acknowledge yourself and reward yourself . And I Buy it as a habit . This you can also apply to your environment. Can you recognize some talent , your friends, or at work , or with your partner . Just express it honestly. and reward it too, if  it comes from within . It’s symbolic, but acquire this habit you will report higher quality relationships.

Finally, I leave you with the words of our cowboy , ” … and I have one life … one for it to mean something … “

A big hug .



300 (The Hero)

Directed in 2007 by Zack Snyder ( Watchmen ) and starring Gerard Butler and Lena Headey . The film chronicles the battle of Thermopylae , which took place during the Second Medical War , the Persian Empire of Xerxes I and an alliance of Greek city -led Sparta faced .The Persian army estimated that 300,000 was composed of warriors and Greek troops , by around 7,000 men. Once Leonidas I, endured two days his position and knew it would be crazy to make the bulk of his army remained a step to defending a Persian offensive , he ordered the army apart from 300 Spartans who were commissioned to resist.

We will try to shell the concept of hero.heroe.anonimo

the dictionary for the word “Hero” offers the following definitions.

The word in question comes from the Latin : heros , – ois .

1. Males illustrious and famous for his exploits and virtues.

2. Man holding a heroic action.

3 . Main character in a poem or story in which an action is represented , and especially the epic .

4 . Characters of high character in the epic .

5 . In ancient mythology , the birth of a god or goddess and a human person , so I said to be more than man and less than god like Hercules , Achilles, Aeneas, etc .

We did observe these definitions, the genealogical tree of our word may be given by the following characteristics or attributes: male, man , feats , famous, illustrious virtue , action, major , epic, epic, high character , god , goddess, person .

That is, it can be considered as “a man who has a high character and , through the action accomplished a number of feats or epics epic sense , leading him to be considered as someone famous and illustrious and eventually , to become a god or goddess . “

By unifying all of the above descriptions , we have achieved a single meaning for the word HERO , quite interesting, as we can now move on to discuss the main ingredients of this new explanation :

1. Man male human being ( be )

We are all heroes. Without exception .
It does not take Leonid I. or have been awarded the Iron Cross . These are just signs that society has created to distinguish an unusual or outstanding performance .

Interestingly, almost always identified with the war hero . Thanks in part to

cinema. My beloved medium has undertaken to present all kinds of heroes and / or superheroes , including our 300 players today . Although , from this report, 7,219,086 people assign to the role of heroes.

Why is it so appealing the hero?. Because it is admired by all, or nearly all, thesociety and is also famous and illustrious (including attributes to unify our definition). And why do we need to be admired by others?, or be famous?,because, obviously, has many advantages:

  • Increase your self-esteem. You feel loved and accepted by a large group.Although, what is attractive, a mental representation is transferred to the physical plane (man or woman) than for this group or society, can be represented in relation to values, concepts,skills, ideals, etc..
  • You can generate great revenue source, without showing anything. As for what you say representas.es , increase your economy.
  • You can have a chance to meet interesting people , which in turn will open other circles , ie , expand your social network.
  • You can meet and intimate with beautiful people and beautiful appeal to you . Is, building relationships and therefore sexual .
  • You can travel, learn new cultures , knowledge, new sports, languages ​​, disciplines, etc. . That is, you can develop both your outer (body), as your inner (mind, spirit).

In short. You can have ALL or almost EVERYTHING you want .

Right. Now position yourself in front of a mirror and watch yourself carefully. Take your time. No hassles .

What do you see ?.


Possibly , you can build a mosaic of praise, negative and / or positive reviews , rejections, fears, joys , ups, resorts, caresses , smiles, tears , postures , winks , gestures, saboteurs.

The bad news is that you can not be otherwise.

The good news is that , not being one , are unique.

What do you think ? . This sounds to me , or I’ve heard , they think out loud many.

Right. No matter , yes you heard before . Matter , to be aware of it , and integrate it into .

Leonidas died in battle. It is a fact . You are alive . It is another factHow do you walk the walk you have left ? Or better , who want to be in that way? .

Take your time and let it resonate questions .

2 . Feats  / epic . ( The way. Action )

I have decided to include these three words, because they all have the same meaning.

Accomplishment : The act or fact, and specially made illustrious and heroic noted .

Epic : Of or pertaining to the epic or heroic poetry .

Epic: Set of glorious deeds worthy to be sung epically .

In analyzing these meanings , leads to the fact or action.

The action in this case , is not trying to stop the Persian Empire of Xerxes I. It is more important to you. We talk about self-knowledge.
de dentro hacia fuera

We talk about values. We talk about acceptance. We talked about that you want.That’s a real battle . Take responsibility for the quality of your life experiences .This path does not have to be suffering from. We’re not going to die trying . We will not receive thousands of arrows in an attempt to defend a position .

Once you’ve made ​​progress on this path of self-esteem . Which, incidentally , is for life , will have to integrate both your strengths and your weaknesses. You’ll be in your center. Equilibrium . And from here , not from another location , known as fear, saboteurs , beliefs, egos , etc. , you will have to interact with your surroundings (family , family , friendship , work, society ) , in a different way .Completely.

This is the right way . From the inside out. Life is not a struggle . That’s part of the social jargon. The struggle you keep to yourself , which is accentuated in your relationship with the outside world , because it also makes mirror and see

reflected in the other what we have built , or not accept , and hence the drama.The drama, in the form of disputes, non-acceptance , envy , jealousy , sabotage , fog.

What ? and  wich may be the result ? Did you stray from your path . What do you travel another path, which is not yours. it may be that your erroneous beliefs have inherited . Sometimes zigzag , sometimes in circles. And flow. This path consists of what you have learned about yourself. Values ​​. Sense . Integration. Ultimately .Your correctly. Your site . The presence . Your way .desviarse

3 . God / Goddess . ( sense )

According to the dictionary, God, supreme being in monotheistic religions is regarded maker of the universe .

For some it is God , for others , the universe, for others the universal love. In short , it is to find the meaning of your life . That you even more complete . According to Victor Frankl, (creator of Logotherapy and survivor Auswitch ) is a man searching for meaning, and there is something that can never be taken away their ability to choose .

To Leonidas I, its meaning and its 300 apparently was filled with values ​​such as group sense , courage , honor, etc. . So much so that they gave their life for it without blinking . It really was what gave meaning to their lives.

Find the meaning of your life . Find your camino.Y will advance your self and your fulfillment .buscador.sentido

A hug .

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The Wolf of Wall Street (The LEADER).

With this twist , Martin Scorsese, again gets to show his world of sex, drugs and debauchery , but this time without murder or crime families . This tape riddled with sarcasm and criticism of the financial world , brings out the figure of LEADER .

This is my point of reference for this article.

Di Caprio Leornardo enshrined , from my point of view , as the most versatile actor who lights up the screen in recent years , playing the role of Jordan Belfort, a new graduate in biology , in the last years of the 80s , decides to become a stockbroker in order to achieve your goal : Make fortune.

From this premise , our hero , once he gets his license broker, sees his path is interrupted by the greatest disaster in the stock market after the crash of 29 , known as ” black Monday ” .

At this stage , our young stockbroker , still do not know what wood it is made.Although possibly his instinct and destiny with him not to let his dream aside. After reading his wife in a classified newspaper, ads asking where stockbrokers, decides to appear in the company and create your project.

In this film we find some characteristics that a leader should be properly managed. Let’s review some of these key concepts:

1 – . Knowledge.


One of the requirements to be a good leader , is knowledge. It may not be an expert , but you should know what they want to lead. That knowledge of the environment , where your project is developed will give the data necessary to build your roadmap .

And when I speak of knowledge I do not mean to swell titles in the curriculu


m , but the leader also has the ability to know what training or knowledge needs to learn or develop .

2 – . Constantly reinforces the message group.

Impressive to see the scene where Di Caprio , harangue their employees to the path of victory, towards meeting the objectives of the organization.

valoresI do not intend to enter the ethical issue of the company, and more specifically , of Stratton Oakmont (founded and chaired by Belfort .) Is not on this occasion this.

Belfort , get your employees are motivated , because they also receive compensation for their work and for those who work there, want to be in that company and not another . They want to be part of that team.

Do not just sell your project to the external customer , internal customer here is the first thing to ” buy ” what you sell .

3 – . Communication .

Is not only important what you say? , But how you say it ? .

comunicacionIn other words , speak the same language as your audience. Or better yet , let your audience understand your language .

Polish your way to communicate, one with which you identify yourself , that makes you real , that which is your personal brand. While not fall into the manipulation simply be alert about what works and what not.

Make your meetings or your exposures are enjoyable , despite the issue you’re dealing with. Or at least , it creativeYou ‘ll also enjoy more and more of what you once seemed neutral or boring.

4 – . Take risks .
Leave each day a little more of your comfort zone . Do not install on the throne. You can not be the oracle . Give yourself something to those around you . Share something. Lower the mud. And yes you feel vulnerable, much better. Soon you will find out more about you , to walk this path .

5 – . Resistance.

In this section , I share how Belfort addresses this issue. Drugs were used in past decades to such resistance , the pace of work , to be always at the forefront.
This is already part of the script of certain films . Although you do need care .Being physically fit . Caring for food . The hours of sleep. Try meditation, yoga. It’s about caring and cleanse the body and mind.

Keep your balance , ultimately .

6. Celebration and sense of humor.

celebracionFind something to celebrate and do it honestly and naturally. Celebrate the successes of the company, compliance of those goals have been achieved . This is not the extravagant parties that appear on the tape. But do it . You can also use creativity.

7. Teamwork values ​​.

Minimizes differences in equipment . Try to iron out these differences in status and worry about it. The authority can be maintained by other means. Try to identify common values ​​and maximize them. A team coach can be very helpful in this whole journeyPlease review the mission and includes your team main way yeah you have not already done so.
Insists courtesy, and eradicates and other disrespectful behavior.

8. Symbolism and personal example.

Uses symbolism to give more strength to your message or your action. Yes you indicate your company must reduce costs, give you example . I’m sure you’ll find this balance and that message that your team can capture . In this sense , it’s downright fun to watch pseudo tribal dance with small bumps on his chest that each of the employees of the firm , run and share . Create .

9. Conflict .

Self-managed conflictBeat the anger in small doses. Lima differences , find points intersección.las personal differences should not succeed. Afánete to resolve with humility, and naturalness. It is a sign of weakness, but to fight to bring forward a draft and that the team must remain united .

10 – . Surround yourself with a good team.

Make your team the best. I train him . Endow it the tools and knowledge they need .Recognizes talent , maximize and admit it . We all have a talent inside. No need to be the most expensive and experienced . You can do that are overcome and make the best of them . That’s it .

In the film we see how vendors makes Belfort ” rake ” genuine brokers who have an outstanding performance on the job , through training, motivation, confidence , recognition and of course, compensation .

Is your team and you have to go out and play with him.

A hug